When a family divorces it doesn’t mean that doing activities as a family has to end. Some families, like Victoria Baldwin and her ex-husband Adam Dyson, vow to continue to give their children a firm family foundation after their divorce by continuing family activities.
That’s why Baldwin and Dyson still make sure to have professional family photos taken with their son Bruce.
“Adam and I are not perfect co-parents, but we made a deal when we got divorced, to put our son first and to value the richness that we each bring to his life, for different reasons,” Baldwin wrote on Love What Matters‘ Facebook page.
“So yes, we still have a family portrait taken, and I still pay good money to have the images printed, framed, and placed in our son’s bedroom; he may not grow up with parents who live in the same house… but he will grow up to see respect, kindness, empathy, compassion, perseverance, flexibility, and even sacrifice being modeled by both of his parents and he will know it is possible to fall out of love but never fall apart.”
Baldwin told TODAY that it “only seemed natural” to continue documenting their lives which helped them to maintain a sense of normalcy for Bruce.
“The idea is, even though mommy and daddy are not together anymore, and we aren’t in a sense, a family, we still are a family,” Dyson told TODAY. “We want him to know that mommy and daddy will always love him, and do what we can for him to the best of our abilities. ”
Baldwin says that getting to this point with her ex-husband wasn’t easy, but she realized that she wanted to set a good example for her son by having a pleasant and respectful relationship with Dyson.
“It’s been more than two years since that epiphany and to say Bruce has blossomed is an understatement!” she said. “What starts in the home changes the world — and we truly believe that we’ve found a normal that works for us.”
Some naysayers say that the photos will probably end once either of them gets involved in a new relationship, but both Baldwin and Dyson say that it won’t. Baldwin says that, if anything, they’d invite their new partner to join them in the photos.
“This is something special for Bruce. Yeah, we’re not together anymore and it may seem weird to others that we still do family photos, but we’re a team,” said Dyson. “We’re not inappropriate, we’re not awkward around each other, we respect each other, we’re friendly, we do what we can for our son, and this is something that I believe we won’t change for anyone just because they feel uncomfortable about it.”
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